The Monday morning blues. The Sunday night insomnia worrying about the Monday morning blues. Then the actual Monday anxiety and dread as you get ready for your day. Many of us experience this “Monday Despair” in some way, and it seems to happen every single Monday.
We enjoy our free time, time away from work and obligations. We enjoy living life by our own agenda on the weekends, spending time with family and friends, sleeping in late, and just taking our life in slowly. Traffic is lighter, our calendar has more “free” times available (although for some of us our weekends are even busier than the weekdays) and we are not hustling to work. We value our weekends and they have become quite sacred to us.
So when Monday morning comes, we are very unwilling to part with our weekend. Even though we know we have to get back to our weekday life and responsibilities, whatever they may be, we just don’t want to. Our thoughts tend to remind us how much we dislike our jobs and how tired we are when Monday morning comes around. We even feel jealous of the people who do not seem to have the Monday blues, or a job to attend. Monday mornings are the most common day when people take personal time offer work, or call in sick, and the primary reason: the protection of sacred weekend. Everyone wants a three or four day weekend, right?
But do we really have to live every Monday of our life like this? Do we have to wake up crabby and spread this energy around to others? Do we have to entertain our negative thoughts about Mondays and stay stuck in the spiral of wishing it was Friday instead, every single week? Think about how many Mondays you might average in your life. Hmmm…365 days a year, 4-5 Mondays a month, so approximately 50 or so Mondays in a year, multiply that by how long you live and….WOW! That’s thousands of Monday mornings that you will just suffer through if you don’t change the way you think about Mondays.
I know, I know, I know. Mondays are just the worst days of the week, and I must be crazy for saying otherwise. But do Monday’s really have to be this bad? Does any day of the week have to be better than another? Perspective and thought drive our ability to categorize anything we experience to be either good or bad. Everyone seems to love Friday’s because we have learned to perceive Friday’s as the end of the work week and the beginning of the weekend. But what about the people who start their work week on Friday, work their second job on the weekends, or take classes all day on Saturday’s? Should they feel less enthusiastic about Friday’s? Not necessarily, unless they choose to think so.
Instead of thinking about Monday’s in such a negative manner, let’s try and change our perception of the day. Let’s try and shift our thoughts and attitude to include some intentional positivity surrounding the end of our weekend:
- Be thankful. Don’t take your job for granted. It may not be what you thought you would be doing or even still currently want to do, but you are gainfully employed and many people are not. You can cover your bills and can meet at least basic needs. If you need to make changes regarding your job, work on doing so, but don’t complain in the meantime. It does NO good for anyone.
- Be grateful. Working is part of life and our ability to be able to work is a blessing. We should not desire to sit around and be unproductive, instead we should see work as a valuable part of life. Use your talents and gifts to be grateful that you have something to offer this world as well as the opportunity to do so. Continue to cultivate these gifts as well.
- Get over it. Get up, get dressed, put on your confidence and smile, and then GO! Stop pouting about Monday morning. Just stop it today! You are alive and able to see another day and so what if the day is a Monday? Get up and out and get it done! Once you get going you will be fine. Just push yourself and move! And remember that you are not the only one with responsibilities which they would prefer NOT to have to do on a Monday or any day.
- Shut down negativity in your mind and from others. Get up early and take a walk (yes, you can get up 30 minutes earlier) to clear your mind and take in some fresh air. Don’t access any social media, emails, texts, etc until you are fully dressed and prepared to conquer the day. The wrong message or image can bring you down and promote negative thinking, so if it’s not absolutely urgent then it can wait. Listen to some uplifting music, get your body moving, and ignore anyone who is groaning about the Monday blues.
- Write down the fun things you want to accomplish this week and coming weekend. Take a couple minutes to envision your week. This will give you something to look forward to as you navigate the work week. Jot down these fun things on a post it and put it up in a common place in your home or workplace, or put a reminder notification on your phone. It’s amazing what the visual language can do for our thoughts. Try it!
Most of all, stop saying that Mondays are horrible. What we speak becomes our reality because then it translates into our thoughts. And remember: Thoughts + Emotions = Actions. So before you know it, if you say Mondays are terrible, you will be thinking it, feeling it, and than acting on it. Stop this particular negativity right at the root: the mouth.
Consider how many Mondays you will experience in your lifetime and if you really want all of them to feel empty and frustrating unless you have the day off. This is not healthy or reality. So we have to get past this perception of our work life.
Our life is full of things we want and have to do, so let’s work on creating a positive experience for all of our responsibilities and activities. It’s your decision to live a life filled with the Monday blues or to live a life filled with the blessing of another Monday and many more to come!